Throughout our lives, we build up an identity as a result of our inherent personality traits, the knowledge we have gained, and events that have happened in our lives. Reacting to each of these things shapes the personality and style that we present to the world and becomes how we see ourselves. However, you don’t have to be stuck with the version of yourself that you’ve become. You can choose to reinvent yourself into a better you anytime you want!
Step 1: Commit to Change
Whether you are reinventing yourself after a personal tragedy like losing your job or spouse or you just want to be a better version of yourself, you have to commit to change. Unless you truly want to make changes in your life, you won’t succeed at it. Create an action plan for the next day, week, month, and year to make your goals of reinventing yourself a reality.
Step 2: Focus On Who You Are
Rather than focusing on all of the things that you don’t want to be, think instead about who you are. Often our personalities are formed as we learn to cope with things that didn’t go as planned in our lives (parents’ divorce, moving house, not making the team, etc.). To reinvent yourself, give yourself the freedom to express yourself apart from those negative experiences. Also consider self-improvement programs like the Landmark Forum (formerly known as Landmark Education), which are intended to provide positive changes in your life and help you figure out who you truly are.
Step 3: Get Help From a Mentor
No one can make major life changes without a support system. While having the support of your family and friends is helpful for your journey, a mentor can teach you tips and tricks that will get you where you want to go. If you can’t find a direct mentor who can help you make connections and give you personalized advice, turn to motivational authors for wisdom.
Step 4: Break Out of Your Comfort Zone
You can’t reinvent yourself if you stick to doing things the same way you always have. Breaking out of your comfort zone is essential to becoming a better version of yourself. You can start with small changes and build up to things that really scare you. For instance, if you want to become more spontaneous, start by asking a coworker to go out to lunch on a whim, then move up to jetting off on a last-minute getaway to another country. Or if you want to get in shape, begin with walks around the block before joining a gym.
Step 5: Embrace Failure
Reinventing yourself won’t happen overnight. No matter what your goals are, you will probably hit a few bumps in the road on your way there. The key is not to give up. If you really want to succeed at becoming a better you (see Step 1), you have to persevere. With help from your support system, you can do anything!