Never mind if you prefer a kinky way of showing affection or you’re just looking for a short, but exciting, stepping out of your comfort zone – everyone has the curiosity, at least once in their sex life, to expand their sex limits and try something everybody talks but they just fantasize about.
Whether you’re finding your sexual orientation, wanting to spice things up a little between you and your partner or you simply want to satisfy the curiosity, you are on the right way to find a little bit more about your sensuality, what excites you and how to be or become the most satisfied version of yourself.
And just hopefully, you will find this guide helpful and answerable.
Sexy Underwear
There isn’t, very likely, a more direct objectification of desire and eroticism than with people’s underwear. From medieval chemises undergarments to wearing see thru clothes – underwear was and still is, an element of clothing that is occupying and haunting people’s minds since underwear is recognized as a part of one’s privacy and intimacy.
And modern times haven’t changed that, although we can see models in underwear or swimwear everywhere. The undergarments are still private, not for everyone to see, and especially women’s lingerie plays a huge part in any sort of imagination, passion, and affection. Therefore, you shouldn’t underestimate the power of visualization, smooth and sexy materials, and the beauty of your body. There are options without count to choose the lingerie you feel the best in and let your partner’s fantasy do the rest.
Toys’ Story
The second biggest kinky thing is using toys for the pleasure of both you and your partner. The choice of toys can be also innumerable, but you can start with simple ones or the ones designed for foreplay.
You can pick these sexual amplifiers alone, or you can make it even more stimulating by having your partner choose with you. Visiting any specialized shop is stimulating on its own, but the expectancy of imminent usage adds to the excitement. If your partner is a little shy or too picky, you can always visit any of the online shops, for bigger offers or anonymity.
If you’re doing this for the first time, leave the shame and stigma around it astray, and focus on the fun side of it, as that is the only thing that matters.
Little Help From Your Friends?
Sure, you can have your friends, acquaintances, or colleagues participate in your kinky endeavor, but maybe their pieces of advice and offers of experience will help you more (if you’re looking to spice things up only between your partner and you).
The other people can help you with suggestions – where to obtain certain quality, where, as in location, to go or visit and try certain kinky actions, what is their experience with certain products and positions and they can also give you certain ideas that you can try. But the most important is the revelation that being “kinky” isn’t anything shameful or that a certain group of people does it. From dirty talking to BDSM, being kinky is in all of us.
Gadgets, Gadgets, Read All About It!
Those are not the same as toys, although these gimmicks also exist and are invented for pleasure and relaxation (or firmness!). While toys are meant to be played with, things like gadgets are there to directly enhance the experience.
Penis rings, blindfolds, a set to match the room lights with some music, and so on, are all there for a more pleasant atmosphere and more intense action. Just remember not to get carried away too much and hurt anyone, as the experience should be thrilling but not damaging.
Open Conversation
Part of the sexual pleasure that can be expressed in bed also comes in the form of words. Dirty talk, role-play, and the like, can all bring about and release the great sexual tension between partners. The starting point for all of this is actually figuring out what someone wants to experience in this sense, but instead of raiding through their diary hoping to find some clues, it is much better to ask them openly and talk about it first.
Being honest about it is the first step to experiencing it, and one or two conversations on the topic can give you great insight into what you should do next. Hopefully, it’s something that neither of you minds doing, but whatever the case – it’s all just for fun.
The first and the most important rule to more kinky love life is the freedom to choose – what, how, when, and with whom. Start with talking to your partner, to your friends and then slowly move by trying out different things, toys, roles, positions, garments, places… it will freshen up your love life and show you a maybe completely new side of yourself.
