How I’ve Become More Approachable

Calming My Nerves in Conversation

Sometimes, it can be hard to engage in a conversation. It’s not always easy to calm the nerves! Talking with people I know is easy but getting comfortable around new people is always tough. It’s not that I don’t want to socialize—I just have a hard time doing so!

After researching online, I’ve learned a bit about how to keep my cool during especially stressful situations. I’ve also been practicing with a handful of close friends and have already made some amazing progress!

Maintaining Appropriate Eye Contact

One of the most difficult parts of communicating with other people is maintaining eye contact. Avoiding the other person’s eyes might indicate that you are unapproachable, even when you aren’t trying to be. Our eyes can communicate otherwise unexplainable information!

After practicing with my friends, and also in the mirror, I’ve made a lot of progress in maintaining the right amount of eye contact. Too much comes off as creepy, but not enough comes off as cold—you have to strike just the right balance!

As important as it is to keep your eyes on the other person at the beginning of the conversation, make sure to maintain eye contact as the conversation progresses. And remember too little or too much is a bad thing!

Wearing Different Makeup Styles

Some of my friends have noticed that I don’t always make the best makeup choices. Darker makeup can make you come as mysterious and inviting. Colorful makeup, on the other hand, can make you look more friendly, but too much can make you look strange. I’ve realized that the best looks are natural, or don’t use very much makeup at all! A little foundation goes a long way.

Certain makeup styles can make you look better and more approachable but remember not to go overboard! Do your best to use different colors, and to keep things simple.

I Started Caring More About My Appearance

There was a time when I didn’t care about my appearance and threw on things that were easy to wear, like yoga pants and plain t-shirts. Now, though, I always try to look my best. I’ve also been shopping more and making sure that my wardrobe includes patterns and colors. I am always on the lookout for new, unique accessories!

Additionally, I’ve changed up my hairstyle and finally got my ears pierced. I’ve even been sticking to a facial rejuvenation routine to preserve my youthfulness while I still can. I’ve learned that there are plenty of approaches to facial rejuvenation, my favorite of which is taking advantage of special creams and lotions that keep the skin moisturized. There are plenty of other options, too, like facelifts and BOTOX, but to each their own!

Keeping My Body Posture Open and Comfortable

I’ve always slouched, and my posture has only been getting worse since I started this new job. I sit at a desk and stare at a screen all day! It’s difficult to be constantly mindful of how I’m sitting and standing, but it’s still worth a try!

Slouching and hunching your shoulders can make you look uninviting. The same goes for looking too stiff! I’ve been practicing in the mirror, trying to find a posture that is both healthy and relaxed. Keeping my shoulders straight is a good start!

There are plenty of other gestures, like crossing your arms in a conversation, that can make you look upset or defensive. Covering your mouth can also make you look deceitful. It takes effort to break these bad habits, but I’ve been trying—every time I catch myself hunching or crossing my arms, I opt for a different posture that looks warmer and more inviting.

Open body language has made other people more comfortable approaching me. I’m so grateful to see the positive impacts of my effort!

Practicing My Smile in the Mirror

Even if I feel happy, it can be hard to smile, as I’m very self-conscious about how it looks. It is especially tough to grin in photos, and sometimes, my smile appears forced. I don’t want to look like I’m putting on a show, so practicing in the mirror will help me gauge how much is too much—or too little!

With practice, I’ve grown much more comfortable holding conversations. I’ve even bonded with my friends a bit more and have gained perspective and control over the things that have made me unapproachable. I’m happy to say that I’ve made a number of new friends and feel a lot more comfortable conveying different thoughts and ideas!


Viral Rang
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