One of the most frustrating things anybody can experience in this world is dating. If you have a good date with a fantastic person, it can be one of the greatest things in the world. If they don’t feel the same, those feelings could soon dissipate, and you’ll be left back at square one. If you go on a bad date, you could be desperate for it to end as soon as possible. With that in mind, here are some top tips to help you have more success when it comes to dating.
Work on your first impression
If you’re finding yourself seeking more and more people to go on a first date with, it suggests one of two things. It either suggests that you’re not very good at first dates, or you’re not very good at picking people to take out on first dates. If you think the former is the problem, consider why you might not be giving off a good first impression. For example, in this article exploring what it means to be a man, the author lists a number of the qualities that women find the least attractive. These include things like moodiness, lack of direction, or even indecisiveness. That means something as simple as taking time to decide what to have from the menu could be putting potential partners off meeting you for a second date.
Go where the people you want to meet hang
Many people when they want a date to think about downloading one of the many apps available for dating. While it can deliver lots of results for some people, are they really producing dates that you want to go on? When it comes to dating, you should be looking for quality over quantity. With that in mind, avoid these apps that are overpopulated with people who use it as a last resort when it comes to looking for a partner. Instead, go to places where the kind of partner you want to meet hang out. If you like spending time outdoors, join a hiking or walking group. If you want someone who cares about their fitness, join a fitness group at your local gym. If you want someone who shares a particular passion, e.g. for classic films, go to the screenings of classic films. That way you know anyone you speak to at that location will have similar values and interests to you.
If you get somebody’s number, go on a date, and then never hear from them again, it’s important to move on quickly. If they don’t think you deserve the respect of an explanation on why they haven’t got back to you, they don’t deserve any more effort from you. Ignoring people after a date has now become so common that the modern world has given the practice its own name. If someone “ghosts you”, it can be a blow to your confidence.
Really, it demonstrates more about their flaws rather than yours, and quite frankly, if you cut contact with someone who thinks ghosting is okay then you’ve probably had a lucky escape.