Charisma is possible the truest and most impressive aspect of confidence. If you’ve ever met someone who has true, natural charisma, then you’ll know what this is like. They talk in a way that makes everyone want to listen. They are engaging, attractive, magnetic and just generally enthralling in a way that many of us only dream we could be!
If you can’t think of anyone in your own life, then watch Will Smith being interviewed, or Obama, or Dwayne ‘The Rock’ Johnson.
These people are highly charismatic and it is immediately apparent. But how can we emulate that? How can we capture that lightning in a bottle and use it for ourselves?
The Key to Charisma
As luck would have it, there is actually a relatively simple and proven formula to charisma that you can simply emulate.
And it comes down to gesticulations. You see, all the people who are rated as highly charismatic have been found to gesticulate more than average while they talk. This means they will use their hands to convey a lot of what they’re saying and they also tend to move around more as they speak.
This makes them seem charismatic because it creates a situation where their body language is reflecting what they’re saying and creating a single, congruent message. Compare this to someone who speaks enthusiastically but all while crossing their arms and looking very stressed!
If you want to convey that same charisma then, you need to move around and gesticulate as you talk.
But guess what? You can’t just fake this. If you do, you’ll become self-conscious of your hands and your gestures and that’s a situation that’s now even worse than where we started!
Instead, you need to let it happen naturally and the way you do that is by being highly engaged in what you’re saying. And the way you do that is by being passionate about what you’re talking about.
When you are truly passionate, you can’t help but gesticulate because you’re so excited for what you’re saying.
It comes out of you in every way possible and all self-doubt and all concern fades away – because what you’re saying seems so important that you’ll be 100% focussed on it.
This is why finding something that you’re truly passionate about it highly important. When you are truly passionate and excited, confidence and charisma happen naturally.