Spicing Up Your Sex Life- Including Leather BDSM Collars

There are a lot of important factors that combine to make a good relationship tick. It doesn’t matter what sexuality you are or who you’re with- the same principles tend to apply in the majority of cases. You need, for instance, to be able to have healthy arguments every once in a while with your partner if you want to work together. You also have to get on well with each other in general, and if you want that to be the case then having a good sex life will make that a lot easier. In fact, having good sex makes everything a lot better- I’ve certainly found that throughout my relationships, and a lot of people say the same.

This means that every now and then, you need to be able to spice up your sex life that little bit. This doesn’t necessarily mean you need to go full ‘Fifty Shades’ unless you want to; I’m certainly into this style of stuff, but not everyone is. The important thing is being able to mix things up so that you and your partner don’t get bored of the same old routine. This is a lot easier said than done, however, and that’s why I’m here to help you today. Here’s a guide on how to spice up your sex life.

 

Invest in some sex toys

There are a lot of different ways to spice up your sex life, and I’m sure you’re very aware of that. From personal experience, however, I’d say the best way to do it is by investing in some sex toys and equipment. The variety of stuff out there for you to choose from is really great, so get looking! It’s all down to individual taste, so you need to have a good think about what you and your partner will enjoy the most. Don’t buy stuff that only one of you will enjoy; sex is about both of you having a good time, so make sure that you do!

Now, there are a few suggestions I have regarding the best sort of equipment out there. I’ve always been a big fan of leather BDSM collars, and they really do work a treat. If you choose a good model, it’ll add a holy new level to your kinky time, and you and your partner can take time acting as the pet! Handcuffs and whips are also personal favorites of mine; again, either of you can wear them and there are a variety of positions that they can be worn in. Not only does this increase the possibilities you have at your fingertips, but it means there is much more fun to be had!

Now, I’ve already touched on this, but you need to make sure that both you and your partner are into the equipment you’re buying before you purchase it. Not only will it be disappointing if you buy something if your partner isn’t into it, but it’ll also be a waste of money. That’s why you should try to have a discussion with your loved one before you actually buy them anything; another option is a good sex machine this will make sure you’re both on the same page and that your choice will be a wise one. 

 

Try out some new moves

One of the worst routines to get into with your partner is repeating the same sex positions, in the same order, time after time until it’s almost ingrained in your brain. All this will lead to is boredom and the chances are your partner will be wanting more from you as a couple. To make sure this doesn’t happen to you, try out some new positions every once in a while. I’m sure you know all about the most common positions, but looking some new ones up could go a long way to rekindling that fire between you.

There are a few things to remember if you’re doing this, though. For starters, make sure that both of you are comfortable with a position- both mentally and physically. If your partner doesn’t like the look of a position, don’t force them into trying it. Just look for another instead they do like the look of. If a position is sore for either of you right from the get-go, you should probably think about leaving it for the time being as well. Sex isn’t meant to be physically sore unless you really want it to be, so try and avoid positions that will cause real pain. 

 

Listen to music during sex

This is one you might be having reservations about, but believe me when I say that music can really help to spice things up. Again, this comes down to personal preference- especially when it comes to the style of music. Some of my friends enjoy listening to rap music during their time with their partners, and some people I know like listening to music that sounds as though it’s coming from another room- this can be very soothing. Personally, I enjoy listening to old music- nice and chilled guitar music really gets me in the mood, so it’s all about figuring out what will make you and your partner feel that way. Whatever the style, choosing the right music can add a whole new dimension to your sex life. 

 

Incorporate some dirty talk

Another personal favorite for a lot of people tends to be dirty talk. This can add so much to your sexual encounters and it’s really enjoyable as well. Both of you can join in, and it can range anywhere from simply stating you’re enjoying something to ordering your partner to do something to you (in a controller and safe manner). This can also lead to you and your partner asking each other to experience some new things, so this is a win-win situation in my opinion. Of course, dirty talking isn’t for everyone and you might not enjoy it yourself. However, I suggest you give it a try if you really want to spice up your sex life.