Having low self-esteem is no fun. Not only does it make you retract into yourself and become less outgoing and less likely to succeed, but it also means you’ll be less happy with who you are. The reality is that ‘you’ are the only constant in your life. Friends, relatives, jobs and health will come and go.
But if you don’t like who you are. If you can’t live with yourself. Then you’ll be stuck with that and you’ll never be fully happy.
So how do you go about changing this and building yourself up? Let’s look at some powerful, transformative strategies.
Make Notes of Positives
It is often said that humans have a tendency to focus more on failures and more on insults and to give less mental energy to wins and successes. This is, of course, a negative trait and will only lead to an imbalanced view of the world and ultimately, a lack of success and happiness.
To get around this, make a conscious effort to focus on positives. Focus on the things in life that make you happy and that you are grateful for, but also focus on the things that you have accomplished already, your old wins and all the positive comments that people have made. Think of one of each of these things every day and commit some time to focus on it!
Find the things that you aren’t happy with about yourself and then focus on improving them. That might mean losing weight, adding muscle or fixing up your style so you feel more attractive. Whatever the case, simply the act of starting to make positive progress can often be enough to make you start to feel better and happier.
Surround Yourself With True Friends
Often our low self-esteem is really the self-doubt of other people that have been projected onto us. Unfortunately, this is simply human nature and it is something that many people do entirely unintentionally.
The best way to combat this? Surround yourself with people who won’t do that. That means true friends who believe in you and who support and encourage you no matter what. True friends are the people who you spend time with to feel much better. You should come away feeling empowered and uplifted.
If your friends are making you feel small or low, then they probably aren’t real friends.