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Can Masturbating Before Sex Help You Last Longer?

When people have sex, the goal is usually to last as long as possible — barring them wanting to have a quick romp before work. But this can also make people anxious, and they might finish well before they intended.

This has been a problem for as long as people have been having intimate encounters with each other. There have been a lot of suggestions on how to extend one’s time in between the sheets. There’s one idea, and it’s something that a lot of people do already — masturbate. 

It’s a belief by some that masturbating before sex can make you last longer. Dr. Rachel Rubin offers some medical insight on whether there’s any truth to this idea.

Scientific Vs. Anecdotal

There may be plenty of times when men say that masturbating before sex allows them to relax enough to perform better. That’s known as anecdotal evidence, though. There is no hard proof that doing this does result in extended time between the sheets.

Scientists and researchers didn’t do an extended study. But some things do point toward rubbing one out beforehand. 

Possible Benefits

Men may be hormonal and get aroused at the mere sight of being around someone they might get intimate with. This can lead to several issues, including possible frustration and “blue balls” if they can’t get released anytime soon. Yes, their testicles can get very tender if aroused for a very long time. By masturbating, can get rid of that pent-up desire. 

This leads to the refractory period, which is how long it takes for one to be able to get an erection again after ejaculating. That can then extend the amount of time that one can have sex after that and ejaculate. There is science behind this, so it’s something to consider, for sure.  

There can be some anxiety before sex, especially if it’s the first time between the two of them. By masturbating, this can lessen that anxiety, which will mean that the man can relax and not be as worried when initiating things. Both people can have fun in bed, then. 

When a man masturbates, that will increase the blood flow around his genitals. That will have him feeling aroused already when it’s time to have sex. He won’t have to spend long getting warmed up. 

Possible Cons

There are downsides to everything. Yes, even masturbating before sex. The first one is that a man’s semen load might be less than the first one after masturbation. There’s no need to worry about the amount of sperm in the semen, though. It’s only if the man wants to impress his partner with how much he can ejaculate at a given time. 

The next con involves the refractory period. This one involves aging, though. People may feel eternally youthful in their minds, but unfortunately, one’s body isn’t always going to agree. A man may have a more challenging time bouncing back immediately after ejaculating — whether it’s after sex or masturbation.

As a result, they may have to build that recovery time in before trying to start getting intimate. Otherwise, it could make for a longer wait and put a damper on an arousing situation, which would leave both parties feeling frustrated. 

Also, when a man ejaculates for the first time that day, his orgasm is going to be a lot more intense than the second one. That can lead to a feeling of diminishing returns, especially if there are going to be multiple sessions in a given day. Those orgasms aren’t going to be as electric as the hours go by. There’s still plenty of fun to be had, but there are downsides.

Other Options

 Masturbating is one way to help men last longer. There are other things, like thicker condoms, delay sprays, and prescription drugs like Zoloft. There are also delay wipes, which can numb the area and keep the sensations from overwhelming the man.

Also, he can do deep breathing exercises, and yoga, and improve his overall cardiovascular condition. Toys can also improve the mood and help her feel good before he penetrates her. There are a lot of resources that can be found online. 

Having strong Kegel muscles, which are the ones that shut off the flow of urine, can also help keep the orgasm from happening too early. They may also elect to do something called edging, which is when they bring themselves to the edge of orgasm and then stop — though this is something that should be discussed before doing it.

Otherwise, there’s the risk of having a very upset partner who doesn’t understand why the session was stopped. 

There’s no question that masturbation is a great way to enjoy oneself sexually, whether it will lead to more sex later on. The results are going to be anecdotal at best, though. That’s because what works for one person could be a disaster for another. That’s why it’s always best to explore all the options that are out there. That way, people will find what works best for their unique situation.  

As you can see, there are pros and cons to masturbating before sex. Some factors affect each individual, so if there are long-term issues, then it’s best to talk to a doctor. They will be able to help point you in the right direction. Then it’s a matter of putting in the work and reaping the benefits.

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